My sister is expecting twins in April or May, and lives in Canada. Nath and I have repeatedly asked for photos so we can share in the pregnancy excitement from the other side of the pond; it's the ONLY way we can experience it.
But we have only received two photos early on, and my mom says my sister doesn't want to take more photos because she's "touchy about the way she looks". Another reason earlier on was that she was in a lot of pain because the babies were putting pressure on her organs. Nath and I wonder, "how does that preclude taking photos?" We're in pain all the time and we take photos of memorable events! What's the problem???
Erm...she's fat and pregnant...what's wrong with that??? It's normal! Was she expecting to stay svelte and not break out in acne because her hormones are going nuts? I get the feeling she's too posh to push. They spent the first ten years of marriage creating the perfect house...that's all going to go down the toilet, and I would be lying if I said I wasn't looking forward to their disillusionment.
Sigh. This post is a bit of a rant on my part because of ongoing related problems, and I am on my period so very hormonally volatile when it comes to discussing anything related to pregnancy. Nath and I are thus far unable to have intercourse, but we want to have kids, start trying next year. So anything related to fertility and pregnancy gets me riled up because I feel inadequate. My vaginismus and his fibro make intercourse thus far impossible, so hearing about anyone else's pregnancy drives me to tears.
Tuesday, March 16, 2010
Saturday, January 16, 2010
Interdigitate: Word of the Day 16/01/2010
VERB
Meaning: to become interlocked like the fingers of folded hands
Example Sentence
"The edges [of bridge expansion joints] often are shaped like combs, the teeth of one interdigitating with teeth of the other." (The Washington Post, January 14, 1998)
Meaning: to become interlocked like the fingers of folded hands
Example Sentence
"The edges [of bridge expansion joints] often are shaped like combs, the teeth of one interdigitating with teeth of the other." (The Washington Post, January 14, 1998)
Tuesday, December 22, 2009
Alternatives to the alternative
http://newly-nerfed.net/2009/12/21/alternatives-to-the-alternative/
My husband wrote a thread on the popular "But You Don't Look Sick?" message boards What's the Harm in CAM? about the potential harm done to patients by some forms of complimentary and alternative medicine (CAM). When he was requesting evidence that the treatments people were espousing worked, he was attacked by certain members who felt that he was maligning their chosen form of health care. Evidence was never presented. It was felt by some that there was no need to present evidence, as the patients' feeling better from these treatments was evidence enough.
It is not empirical evidence, and when called upon to produce empirical evidence, CAM-supporters usually come up empty-handed.
My husband wrote a thread on the popular "But You Don't Look Sick?" message boards What's the Harm in CAM? about the potential harm done to patients by some forms of complimentary and alternative medicine (CAM). When he was requesting evidence that the treatments people were espousing worked, he was attacked by certain members who felt that he was maligning their chosen form of health care. Evidence was never presented. It was felt by some that there was no need to present evidence, as the patients' feeling better from these treatments was evidence enough.
It is not empirical evidence, and when called upon to produce empirical evidence, CAM-supporters usually come up empty-handed.
Sunday, December 13, 2009
The Prosecution of George W Bush for Murder.
http://www.indiegogo.com/bush
Famed "Manson Family" prosecutor Vincent Bugliosi's 2007 book and forthcoming documentary on why George W Bush should be prosecuted for murder. Pass this link on so they can raise money to finish the documentary!
Famed "Manson Family" prosecutor Vincent Bugliosi's 2007 book and forthcoming documentary on why George W Bush should be prosecuted for murder. Pass this link on so they can raise money to finish the documentary!
Saturday, November 28, 2009
Solution!
I did a lot of research about why we were having problems in the sex department, and I think we have a solution. It turns out that I have vaginismus, and I went to http://www.vaginismus.com for answers. I bought their kit, and have been slowly working through it. Hope is in sight!
Wednesday, November 11, 2009
Sunday, August 23, 2009
Sad
I'm sad.
I'm sad because my husband of eight months won't have sex with me.
I'm sad because the flat is a mess of piles of his things that I can't go through and organize, so they remain, and he does nothing about them.
He did keep me company while I washed dishes this afternoon, and he started work on rearranging the kitchen cupboards so they are more organzized and I can reach the stuff I need to without knocking over other stuff.
He says things have to be done slowly, because of his fibro and his energy levels and his pain, but what about my pain and energy levels? I live with it the same way he does and I get things done. I'm happy when he does the chores I can't do, but I am sick of living in this mess.
I am taking anti-anxiety medications to deal with the panic attacks that this all causes. He's afraid I'm going to tunr into my mother - a Valium addict. I assure him that I won't. He says me being upset drains his energy levels and the pills are the only way I can see to cpmbat that. We are on a waiting list for marriage counseling. Emails from his mother do not help because she has no understanding of chronic illness and chronic pain.
I'm less sad for writing this down.
I'm sad because my husband of eight months won't have sex with me.
I'm sad because the flat is a mess of piles of his things that I can't go through and organize, so they remain, and he does nothing about them.
He did keep me company while I washed dishes this afternoon, and he started work on rearranging the kitchen cupboards so they are more organzized and I can reach the stuff I need to without knocking over other stuff.
He says things have to be done slowly, because of his fibro and his energy levels and his pain, but what about my pain and energy levels? I live with it the same way he does and I get things done. I'm happy when he does the chores I can't do, but I am sick of living in this mess.
I am taking anti-anxiety medications to deal with the panic attacks that this all causes. He's afraid I'm going to tunr into my mother - a Valium addict. I assure him that I won't. He says me being upset drains his energy levels and the pills are the only way I can see to cpmbat that. We are on a waiting list for marriage counseling. Emails from his mother do not help because she has no understanding of chronic illness and chronic pain.
I'm less sad for writing this down.
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