Alternatives to the alternative

http://newly-nerfed.net/2009/12/21/alternatives-to-the-alternative/

My husband wrote a thread on the popular "But You Don't Look Sick?" message boards What's the Harm in CAM? about the potential harm done to patients by some forms of complimentary and alternative medicine (CAM). When he was requesting evidence that the treatments people were espousing worked, he was attacked by certain members who felt that he was maligning their chosen form of health care. Evidence was never presented. It was felt by some that there was no need to present evidence, as the patients' feeling better from these treatments was evidence enough.

It is not empirical evidence, and when called upon to produce empirical evidence, CAM-supporters usually come up empty-handed.

The Prosecution of George W Bush for Murder.

http://www.indiegogo.com/bush

Famed "Manson Family" prosecutor Vincent Bugliosi's 2007 book and forthcoming documentary on why George W Bush should be prosecuted for murder. Pass this link on so they can raise money to finish the documentary!

Solution!

I did a lot of research about why we were having problems in the sex department, and I think we have a solution. It turns out that I have vaginismus, and I went to http://www.vaginismus.com for answers. I bought their kit, and have been slowly working through it. Hope is in sight!

Remembrance Day 11/11/2009

Lest We Forget

Sad

I'm sad.

I'm sad because my husband of eight months won't have sex with me.

I'm sad because the flat is a mess of piles of his things that I can't go through and organize, so they remain, and he does nothing about them.

He did keep me company while I washed dishes this afternoon, and he started work on rearranging the kitchen cupboards so they are more organzized and I can reach the stuff I need to without knocking over other stuff.

He says things have to be done slowly, because of his fibro and his energy levels and his pain, but what about my pain and energy levels? I live with it the same way he does and I get things done. I'm happy when he does the chores I can't do, but I am sick of living in this mess.

I am taking anti-anxiety medications to deal with the panic attacks that this all causes. He's afraid I'm going to tunr into my mother - a Valium addict. I assure him that I won't. He says me being upset drains his energy levels and the pills are the only way I can see to cpmbat that. We are on a waiting list for marriage counseling. Emails from his mother do not help because she has no understanding of chronic illness and chronic pain.

I'm less sad for writing this down.

Good...your hate has made you powerful.

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The Washing of Dishes

Nobody likes to do this, right? The dishes pile up, day after day, a malevolent volcano growing to explosion on the kitchen counter...wait! I'm scaring myself.

So, after reading a few blogs like Simple Mom and Steady Mom, I figured this out. Doing a chore actually gives me a sense of accomplishment! I feel better after it's done, even though I don't like thinking about having to do it. I don't mind the actual doing of it once I get started.

I'd still like to have a house or flat someday with a dishwasher.

It just keeps going...

Here we go again - frustration as a daily event. It feels like I do all the work around here, but I knw that's only partly true. I do tend to over-analyze things, and it drives me nuts. I figured if I blurted it out in a blog, it would at least get out of my head and stop circling around like a bunch of vultures. Sigh.

Grrr!

What is this, "Pick On Stephanie" Week?! Not having a good day here. :-(

Menu Planning

I came across this great post on http://simplemom.net about menu planning.

http://simplemom.net/back-to-the-basics-menu-planning/

The question is: it's just me and hubby, and the cat (who invariably steals something). Both of us are Spoonies (read the Spoon Theory at http://www.butyoudontlookick.com/The_spoon_theory ...and NO, I did not write it. It was written by Christine Miserandino). We have limited energy.

Ideas?

Not a Mom Yet, But...

Even though I'm not a mom (yet!), I found a few blogs that click for me about mothering (and organizing). I liked this post.

http://www.steadymom.com/2009/07/just-relax.html


I also like this one: http://www.steadymom.com

These blogs are about life, the universe and everything. Lots of informational tidbits about coping with life

Despair

I get up, feeling miserable, and start crying for no reason. Every day like this for weeks. The doc says it's because my husband won't do his fair share around the house. I am as sick as he is, yet I manage to do my thing. I have come to love the sound of that little "pop" that emanates from a pill box of lorazepams. I have panic attacks when I look at the piles of unwashed dishes, the filthy cat litter box (the one time I tried to clean it myself, I fell into it), so hubby said that would be his job. I'm still waiting.

I feel useless.

I am getting my hair cut tomorrow. Maybe it will make me feel better.

Uh-oh, here it comes...

My favorite Spoonie winter ritual...NOT! Because of my asthma, any time get a cold, it goes straight to my lungs and lingers there. My lungs don't feel right, it hurts to breathe, and everything feels scratchy. Every time I breathe, the center of my chest hurts. This is either a kick-*$$ cold or something approaching a lung infection. Why does this have to happen on a FRIDAY?!

The last time I had this, it was bronchitis and I went on antibiotics.

I feel like CRAP. And to top it all off, I had nightmares in which I had a bad headache, and I woke up with a headache! :cry:

My New Etsy Blog

...featuring my Etsy products, can be found at
http://warm-och-fuzzy.blogspot.com

Please pass it along to all your friends!

A Tribute to "Easily Aroused"

This has got to be the best erotica blog in existence!


Easily Aroused: Indecent Reflections of an Oversexed Englishman

Wedding

Not surprisingly, nobody from my side of the family came to the wedding. Why doesn't that surprise me? Financial and medical reasons were the most frequently used excuses.

However, my new in-laws were as welcoming as the biological ones were frigid and reeking of ignorance. They love me and I have grown to love them. What else does a girl need?

Scotland, Here I....Stay!

Remember my trip to Scotland in June 2008 that was only supposed to last for two weeks? I live there now! And, I got married to my wonderful, amazing boyfriend on December 6, 2008.

Wedding photos can be found here: http://www.flickr.com/photos/33113419@N02/sets/72157610759853213

Although, right at this precise second I am in Canada, having take care of bureaucratic settlement visa matters. My husband and I do not like being separated at all, but at least we have MSN Messenger to keep in contact like we used to.

Hopefully I'll be back in Scotland by late January or early February.

I really need to learn to blog more often. It's just that I feel I have very little to say that the world at large might be interested in reading.