Why this bothers me so much is that the CD added to the wedding crap she pulled on me is just too much.
If it were just the CD, I'd say to the devil with her and buy another copy.
Another thing that makes this very difficult is that if I break off all contact, this will enrage her. She will hurl abuse at me in a passive-aggressive fashion; she's done this before when we had a disagreement about something a few years back. I don't remember what the point of contention was, so I can't say who was right or wrong, but I remember how she acted. It was not pretty. What I did then was withdraw from the situation for a while, and then patch things up. And I felt awful; I was certain I'd done something wrong. I'm not perfect, but I know I tried not to do anything wrong. Who doesn't?
She has often described herself as being very "alpha" - dominant. She doesn't take kindly to anything negative directed at her, and she knows how to make words hurt grievously. Even if it is objectively not the other person's fault, she knows how to make a person think that something is their fault. In many ways her thinking is like an adolescent's. In that sense, I suppose I was the perfect victim: compliant, non-aggressive, the one who smooths things over. "Sure we can meet next Monday." See? I acquiesced, because she leaves no room for argument. All other options are deemed unsuitable.
I wish this would just go away.
It's not that I'm afraid to make a decision. The problem is the consequences. I don't deserve what she's likely to do to me, and it's going to be very unpleasant.
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