I sent her the following email:
Dear Kate,
As you know I am very ill & do not cope with stress very well. I feel I am your sounding board & this 'friendship' we have is very one sided. It hurts me that you don't ask how I am or if I need any help, instead you talk about yourself & all your problems. I don't have the energy to listen to & help sort out your issues as I have enough trouble with my own.
I need understanding & supportive people around me & don't feel I am getting this from my relationship with you. I need time out to do a re-evaluation on our friendship & suggest you do the same.
Mail me the English Patient CD. Here is my address:
*not posting my address here*
Sincerely,
Stephanie.
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I got an email back. As predicted, she is angry at me.
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K, wow.
I did not know that I was that one sided. I always ask how you are doing. I ask if you are ok, and when you have a headache and you can't talk, I say ok and sign off.
That is a very strong thing to say. I have to say that now, I am hurt and angry.
I will not feel like talking to you either. I will drop off your CD on Sat after my shift.
As far as I know we laugh and laugh.
We are both short on spoons. Maybe I do not listen as much as I can, but I am very busy.
I try and laugh with you, to relieve your pain.
But really if someone does not feel that I am good enough for them, that is cool
Maybe the people on your forum listen to you more, but I do what I can. And I also remember just asking about your voice therapy.
I will drop off the CD on Sat. I am not mailing the **** thing.
I may be selfish, but I don't want to mail it.
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Yes, "Abby" is the very same "Kate" who I was so happy to be friends with when I first met her.
She'll probably be very angry and verbally bash me. It will hurt. I'll just take lots of ativan.
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